People who struggle with any sort of addiction are in actual fact no different those of us who aren’t visibly fighting this kind of taxing battle. In fact, we have more in common with them than we may think. The only difference is that they are addicted to something which is destructive in nature, whereas we’re actually all addicted to something.
It’s in the nature of a human being to depict addictive behaviour and in fact it’s almost instinctive. That’s why we fall into a routine, which perhaps has us sleeping at a certain time each night, sleeping for a certain period, waking up when we do, working and being productive during certain hours of the day and enjoying some down-time with our favourite rituals, at designated times. This is a powerful element of our daily lives which is hidden in plain view, but one whose power can be harnessed to achieve the goals we have set ourselves.
So we’re already using what is effectively an event-driven approach to reaching our goals, but the difference is that some of us have constructive goals which we’ve explicitly defined to want to achieve, while others have destructive goals which they’ve effectively “fallen into.” They haven’t set those goals, but are working towards achieving them every single day of their lives.
Identifying constructive goals to pursue
A goal is ordinarily something which is positive and therefore something which one aspires to, but it’s important to separate constructive goals from destructive ones, because destructive goals aren’t usually ones which you would have set yourself. Rather, these are in a sense inherited from some influencers of your life who ultimately just want you to maintain some kind of dependency on them, so that you can keep buying stuff from them.
Whenever you see a commercial about an alcoholic beverage, for instance, how are the people who are suggested to consume those beverages portrayed? They’re often portrayed as being successful, hard-working and as people whose quality of life is partly as a result of their consumption of that beverage, aren’t they? This is an example of how destructive goals are formulated and pursued – you make it your life’s mission to fall into that cycle of working very hard during the week so that you can spend all your money on that whole lifestyle, which is largely destructive.
So in order to apply the event-driven approach to reaching your goals, first you have to identify constructive goals you want to achieve and then you would proceed to try and replace any destructive goals with those constructive ones. Next, you’ll want to deconstruct the habits or events around those goals and then substitute the bad with the good at each level.
If you’re on the road to quit smoking for example and you’ve decided that in order to do so you’re going to habitually take part in a monthly marathon, then you would be looking at e-liquid flavours as part of your vaping resolution en route to quitting for good, instead of picking up packs of cigarettes. The event will keep you on the right path to achieving your goal, reinforced by making smart decisions along the way, such as vaping over smoking traditional cigarettes.